The Power of Truth and Reconciliation

The Energy of Fact and Reconciliation


E. A. Segal

Supply: E. A. Segal

In my earlier weblog, I launched the idea of reality and reconciliation as a strategy to interact in social empathy. I shared info on the method of reality and reconciliation that my colleague David Androff has written an incredible deal about.1

Fact and reconciliation are highly effective instruments for social empathy, and for that purpose, I’m scripting this to clarify additional and look at the method. I additionally hope that we as a nation, in addition to in our smaller communities, will think about bringing reality and reconciliation commissions to life as a result of it is a manner that we will look at the reality about occasions, share what actually occurred, and delve into histories that we’re uncomfortable and reluctant to speak about.

Previous Occasions Matter

Typically we predict that if we don’t discuss issues that occurred prior to now, these occasions can have no affect on us as we speak. That’s removed from actuality. Fairly, previous occasions and experiences have a manner of impacting us, even after we don’t need to take into consideration them. I share these sensible phrases a therapist as soon as mentioned to me when attempting to keep away from discussing an uncomfortable subject. “Sweep it beneath the rug, and you might be sure to journey over it.”

From that day on, I had this picture in my thoughts: A room with a phenomenal rug, and there within the center was a lump that I used to be all the time attempting to keep away from by going round it or stepping over it. Nevertheless, each every so often, I’d not be trying down, and increase, I tripped, and there I used to be, sprawled out on the ground, questioning what occurred.

The plain answer was to take away what was caught beneath the rug. So too in our lives. We have to uncover what we’re reluctant to speak about. That may be very difficult. It may be one thing we don’t need to discuss, one thing we have now satisfied ourselves isn’t any massive deal, so why deliver it up, or one thing that we predict will fire up emotions that we thought had been gone. Nevertheless, often, it’s a massive deal, and that’s why we hid it beneath the rug!

Historical past Contains Previous Occasions That Influence Us Immediately

So too in our discussions of the historical past of our nation. We have now issues we wish to disguise beneath the rug, equivalent to acknowledging compelled slavery and its brutality in the direction of Blacks; the best way we have now handled indigenous individuals from the primary years of this nation; how girls have struggled to be handled pretty; and the struggles of the LGBTQ+ neighborhood. These histories are painful to recount for many who have lived them and people who stay beneath the affect and penalties of these histories.

If we use empathy to expertise and perceive the lived experiences of those teams, we’ll share painful and disturbing realizations. We might be uncomfortable and expertise troublesome feelings. But when we don’t acknowledge painful historical past, the affect and legacies of those occasions will nonetheless be there, simply hiding beneath the rug, ready to journey us up. And they’ll.

Fact and Reconciliation Can Assist Us Discover Our Social Empathy

Fact and reconciliation is a course of the place each victims and perpetrators, those that brought about ache and people who had been harmed, can inform their tales in their very own phrases. It offers a strategy to hear and deeply hearken to the experiences of others, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Presumably essentially the most well-known public reality and reconciliation occurred within the nation of South Africa. In 1995, with a newly elected democratic authorities following the tip of apartheid, the nation engaged within the technique of reality and reconciliation for victims and perpetrators. It was a public, systematic investigation of human rights violations making certain documentation of the crimes of apartheid.2 It was a nationwide recognition of painful and horrific historical past with suggestions made for change. Metaphorically, it was a collective effort to confront what was hidden beneath the rug of historical past.

Communities in the US have engaged in highly effective truth-telling. A number of years in the past, I visited The Legacy Museum in Montgomery, Alabama, with it, The Nationwide Memorial for Peace and Justice that tells the tales of racial terrorism with “the nation’s first memorial devoted to the legacy of enslaved black individuals.” The memorial consists of documentation and visible artwork items to commemorate all of the identified victims of lynching on this nation between 1877 and 1950.

Their names and tales, lengthy hidden, are dropped at mild by means of truth-telling. It’s a painful and horrific a part of our nation’s historical past. Nevertheless, sharing the reality of historical past can result in a deeper understanding of others and transfer us in the direction of efforts to realize reconciliation, which is a part of the work of the Equal Justice Initiative group (answerable for main the trouble to create the museum and memorial). This work is ongoing, as reality and reconciliation is a course of.3

Why It Works

Fact and reconciliation work as a result of they create a course of that respects what others say and validates these testifying. Even after we disagree, deeply listening is affirming; it tells the opposite individual what they must say is necessary and worthwhile. It’s a manner of acknowledging their experiences as they keep in mind them are legitimate. It isn’t a debate. Listening to testimony requires persistence and the humility to hear even if in case you have benefited over historical past from the mistreatment of others.

For some, that may be essentially the most troublesome a part of reality and reconciliation. Whereas it may be troublesome to listen to the tales, it may be even more durable to appreciate that these experiences of mistreatment and discrimination made simpler paths for others, particularly if these others are us.

We will’t change the previous, however we will pay consideration and be taught from it. With social empathy, we will hear the views of those that have paid a excessive worth all through historical past, stroll of their footwear, be taught from them, be taught all historical past, not simply choices, and commit to creating change.


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